The fear of rejection is a powerful obstacle when you are thinking about making a change. Jia Jiang decided to turn rejection into a game of discovery and figured out how to turn rejection into possibilities.
3:44 I felt there was this constant battle between the 14 year old and the six year old. One wanted to conquer the world - make a difference - another was afraid of rejection. And every time that six year old won.
4:12 When I was an entrepreneur I was presented with an investment opportunity, and then I was turned down. And that rejection hurt me. It hurt me so bad I wanted to quite right there.
4:35 And this is where it clicked for me ... I cannot let that six year old keep dictating my life anymore. I have to put him back in his place.
6:59 (After being rejected on his first day of rejection therapy) ... I could´ve said many things. I could have explained, I could´ve negotiated. I didn´t do any of that. All I did was run. I felt wow, this is a microcosm of my life. Every time I felt the slightest rejection, I would just run as fast as I could. And you know what? The next day, no matter what happens, I´m not going to run. I´ll stay engaged.
8:25 The life and death feeling I was feeling the first time was no longer there, just because I was engaged, because I didn´t run.
10:00 I found if i just don´t run, if I got rejected, I could actually turn a "no" into a "yes" and the magic word is "why".
11:07 Then one day ... I also learned that I can actually say certain things and maximise my chance to get a yes.
14:12 In my research I found that people who really change the world, who change the way we live and the way we think are the people who were met with initial and often violent rejections....they let their own reaction after rejection define themselves. And they embraced rejection.
14:45 Rejection was my curse, was my boogeyman. It has bothered me my whole life because I was running away from it. Then I started embracing it. I turned it into the biggest gift in my life. I started teaching people how to turn rejections into opportunities.
15:13 When you get rejected in life, when you are facing the next obstacle or next failure, consider the possibilities. Don´t run. If you just embrace them, they might become your gifts as well